Monday, July 26, 2010

Tip of the Week, July 25, 2010

Emotions are not monsters that need to be contained. We all need how to shake hands with them and handle them with emotional intelligence.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

When Savers Marry Spenders

Money Conflicts Can Be Strong in Marriages

For many people, money is not just money. Money can symbolize love, power, control, dependence or independence, security and peace of mind, freedom and so much more.

How we are reared, how our parents thought about money and how much we had as we were growing up affects our habits and thoughts about money and relationships.

Spenders + Spenders = Conflict

enjoy splurging on extravagant dinners, the newest cars, interesting experiences and stylish clothes. Spenders live more “in the moment” and want to enjoy what is interesting and pleasurable today.

sleep better at night when they know that their bank account is in the black and they have money saved for emergencies and retirement. Savers can make do with old cars, fashions from 3 years ago and have little need for the latest technology. Having a solid nest egg helps savers relieve their anxiety and feel more secure.

Childhood Experiences Affect Our Attitude Toward Money

Some people grow up in families that talked a lot about money while others grow up without talking about money at all.

For some talking about money is as “dirty” as talking about sex. This is dangerous however, because often our attitudes about money are so strong that we cannot be flexible enough to think that there is any other right way to handle finances than the ones that we hold.

When couples each have their own belief about the “correctness” of their position, they often cannot entertain any openness to other possibilities and can become judgmental and disrespectful in their thinking and in the way that they approach their spouse. Money negatively affects their relationship.

Money disagreements are one of the top reasons that couples fight and how those fights about finances go are one of the best predictors of divorce.

Check back here for Part 2 of our article on Spenders and Savers.

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Women, Sex and Thinking: Discover 3 New Ways to Think Your Way to a Better Sex Life

Many healthy men think about sex several times a day.

Many healthy women think about sex several times a month.

That, in and of itself, causes sexual problems for men and women. Men often want sex a lot more frequently than women want sex. Neither is happy with the process and the tension that it can create in a relationship as a man pursues his wife and his wife feels pressured. Each of them feels like a loser, even though they have different reasons.

In some relationships, it is exactly the opposite … Women are much more interested in sex than their male partners. Nothing is “always” or “never”.)

The reasons that many women have less interest in sex than their partners are complicated. Much more complicated than we will explore in this brief article. Check back with us for more on this topic at a later date and we will discuss women, men and intimacy as well as other related topics.

We want to address just one of the reasons why women are less interested in sex. It comes from a woman’s innate ability to multi-task. This means that she is thinking about and often doing, many things at once.

When one’s mind and body are so busy, how can a woman possibly relax and think about and enjoy a hot rendezvous with her husband!

We have all heard jokes … or experienced first hand … the many different things that go through a woman’s mind while having sex. (Hard to call it “making love” sometimes.)
* Laundry
* Dinner
* Errands
* Work
* Problems with children
* And on and on.

The person who loses most when this occurs is the woman. The emotional and physical rewards of being in-the-moment and sharing lovemaking with a partner are many. Researchers have noted the positive hormonal changes in brain chemistry after sex as well as the effects on the ability to handle stress.

Women Can Learn To Focus on the Experience and Enhance Their Sexual Experience

Here are 3 steps to help you think your way to a better sex life.

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Sunday, July 11, 2010

Tip of the Week, July 11, 2010

For some moments in life there are no words. 
~David Seltzer, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

How DO Singles Meet Each Other?

A new way for singles to meet was profiled in the New York Times Sunday Styles section on July 4, 2010. This website, with a companion face book page, offers singles ideas, along with different opportunities, for meeting up.

Want to meet another single for a tarot card reading?
How about at a volleyball net?
Want to meet at a local museum?
How about swing dancing?
Interested in joining a local scuba club?

Sign up and meet other singles with the same interests and ideas. This website,, which launched first in New York City, has singles suggest activities by completing the phrase How about we…, and users are sent possible matches based on their activity preferences.

Get to know others who like to do some of the same things that you like to do in an easy and casual way.

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to read more about this idea.

Come back and share your comments and ideas with others. We would love to learn about your experiences.