Is it more important for you to protect your relationship than it is to win a fight?
Can you disagree without being disagreeable?
Are you able to keep the love showing while conflict is flowing?
If your answer is “yes” to all of these questions, then you may not need to read any further. If any of these presents a strain for you; however, there may be some useful tips here for you.
All couples disagree. According to researcher, Dr. John Gottman, it is usually about the same things over and over again. In fact, his research points out that about 2/3rds of all disagreements are usually about the same issues.
Some couples are masters at working through conflict and keeping a good relationship as their primary focus. They truly disagree without being disagreeable.
Couples who can find ways to repair any damage to the relationship while they are having a disagreement, or, as some might call it, a fight, have more than half of the battle won. It makes so much more sense to compromise with or acquiesce to someone that you like and with whom you have a good relationship.
For others, repairing damage during conlict requires learning new habits and skills.
In future posts, we will discuss 6 different ways for you to repair damage to your relationship while you are having an argument.