Have realistic expectations for yourself and your family.
Remember holidays of the past and do not expect this year to be much different.
Remember, you can work yourself into a pretzel trying to make them special, but you have no control over others in your family and they may never appreciate what you do for them.
You may fantasize about your hopes and dreams for the holidays, however, it may only BE hopes and dreams.
Be realistic about yourself and your family as you move into the holidays. Look for small positive things and focus on them rather than what is missing.
Find ways to create meaning in these holidays for yourself but know that it may not mean the same for others.
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