Women: Your man may not understand what you mean by “intimacy“.
He really may not have the same idea that you do about how to be intimate and connected outside of the bedroom in order for you to be ready for intimacy in the bedroom.
For men, intimacy often means activities together, which includes sex. Men often feel connected and intimate AFTER making love and then are more able to talk and act in loving ways.
Gently and lovingly share with your partner what you want and need, then look for his efforts in that direction and let him know how much you appreciate them.