Women, Sex and Thinking: Discover 3 New Ways to Think Your Way to a Better Sex Life

Many healthy men think about sex several times a day.

Many healthy women think about sex several times a month.

That, in and of itself, causes sexual problems for men and women. Men often want sex a lot more frequently than women want sex. Neither is happy with the process and the tension that it can create in a relationship as a man pursues his wife and his wife feels pressured. Each of them feels like a loser, even though they have different reasons.

(Disclaimer: In some relationships, it is exactly the opposite … Women are much more interested in sex than their male partners. Nothing is “always” or “never”.)

The reasons that many women have less interest in sex than their partners are complicated. Much more complicated than we will explore in this brief article. Check back with us for more on this topic at a later date and we will discuss women, men and intimacy as well as other related topics.

We want to address just one of the reasons why women are less interested in sex. It comes from a woman’s innate ability to multi-task. This means that she is thinking about and often doing, many things at once.

When one’s mind and body are so busy, how can a woman possibly relax and think about and enjoy a hot rendezvous with her husband!

We have all heard jokes … or experienced first hand … the many different things that go through a woman’s mind while having sex. (Hard to call it “making love” sometimes.)
* Laundry
* Dinner
* Errands
* Work
* Problems with children
* And on and on.

The person who loses most when this occurs is the woman. The emotional and physical rewards of being in-the-moment and sharing lovemaking with a partner are many. Researchers have noted the positive hormonal changes in brain chemistry after sex as well as the effects on the ability to handle stress.

Women Can Learn To Focus on the Experience and Enhance Their Sexual Experience

Here are 3 steps to help you think your way to a better sex life.

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Men and A Woman’s Tears

When women cry, men often feel helpless and their first response is to try to problem-solve or to convince their partner that tears are not helpful or the situation is not as serious as she may think. The man’s intentions are certainly good ones as men often say that, while they feel extremely uncomfortable when they see their woman crying, their main hope is to find a way to quickly help her feel better.

Women may appreciate their partner’s willingness to help; however, solving the problem may not feel like the best response and she may believe that her thoughts and feelings … even she herself … is just being dismissed.

So ... what is a man to do? If her tears are not about a concern with him, his best response is just to be a “shoulder to cry on” … someone who can just be good a sounding board. Women generally feel much better after they have talked about a problem and often, once some of the emotion has been drained away, can then come up with their own ideas about how to approach the situation. A good thing for men to remember … men or women actually, is that when listening to another person talk about a situation that is upsetting to them, do not offer advice unless asked, or until their partner thinks that they truly have a clear understanding of the situation.