Create an environment for intimacy throughout the day and see what happens in the evening.
For women, this often means just thinking about it. Think about the things that you DO like about intimacy with your spouse. Think about the pleasure you have received in intimate moments. Push negative thoughts away and focus on the positive ones about intimacy and your spouse.
For men, this means helping out with housework and childcare. It means finding ways to create some romance with a flower, a card, any way that says “I love you very much” rather than “let’s have sex”.
Showing posts with label lack of sex in marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lack of sex in marriage. Show all posts
Friday, September 24, 2010
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Marriage and Sex: Tip Number 6
Dream together about your ideal sex life and sex partner.
Does your spouse perceive you as a “poor lover”? Do you wish that he or she had a better idea of what pleases you when making love?
Talk together about your ideal love-making. Think of it as more of a “dream” or miracle conversation. Find a time when the two of you are relaxed and alone. Play with it. Be creative and a little humorous.
Does your spouse perceive you as a “poor lover”? Do you wish that he or she had a better idea of what pleases you when making love?
Talk together about your ideal love-making. Think of it as more of a “dream” or miracle conversation. Find a time when the two of you are relaxed and alone. Play with it. Be creative and a little humorous.
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Marriage and Sex: Tip Number 5
Men: Women feel much more interested in an intimate sexual experience if they have intimacy outside of the bedroom.
This usually does not mean that you have to cry or talk a lot about … feelings, heaven forbid!
One small step would be to ask her about her day and then tell her 1 fact about what happened with you. Simple conversation about what is going on in your life and in hers is a way to begin.
This usually does not mean that you have to cry or talk a lot about … feelings, heaven forbid!
One small step would be to ask her about her day and then tell her 1 fact about what happened with you. Simple conversation about what is going on in your life and in hers is a way to begin.
Friday, September 10, 2010
Marriage and Sex: Tip Number 4
Women: Your man may not understand what you mean by “intimacy“.
He really may not have the same idea that you do about how to be intimate and connected outside of the bedroom in order for you to be ready for intimacy in the bedroom.
For men, intimacy often means activities together, which includes sex. Men often feel connected and intimate AFTER making love and then are more able to talk and act in loving ways.
Gently and lovingly share with your partner what you want and need, then look for his efforts in that direction and let him know how much you appreciate them.
He really may not have the same idea that you do about how to be intimate and connected outside of the bedroom in order for you to be ready for intimacy in the bedroom.
For men, intimacy often means activities together, which includes sex. Men often feel connected and intimate AFTER making love and then are more able to talk and act in loving ways.
Gently and lovingly share with your partner what you want and need, then look for his efforts in that direction and let him know how much you appreciate them.
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Marriage and Sex: Tip Number 2
Be the first to take a step forward.
Waiting for someone else to change, even if they really SHOULD be the one to take the first step, can be destructive and really not worth the damage it does to a relationship.
Take that first step graciously, maybe even a few times, and look for even small positive signs.
Waiting for someone else to change, even if they really SHOULD be the one to take the first step, can be destructive and really not worth the damage it does to a relationship.
Take that first step graciously, maybe even a few times, and look for even small positive signs.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)