Marriage and Sex, Tip Number 1

Consider the question: Is this stand-off worth the problems that it creates in your marriage?

Think long and hard about whether or not you want to continue with this pattern.

Think about how the problem has affected you and your spouse and then think about how things could and, hopefully, will be different when the problem is resolved.

Each person is half of the problem … and half of the solution.

Marriage and Sex

We often hear couples complain about their sex lives. Wives are generally less interested in intimacy inside the bed and more interested in intimacy outside of the bedroom. Men often say that they feel more connected, and so, more intimate, if there is intimacy inside the bedroom.

Struggles then subtly erode into long-term stand-offs with both feeling hurt, disappointed, unloved and misunderstood.

Has this happened in your marriage? How have you two broken the impasse?
We are interested in your experiences and will share some of out thoughts in later posts.

Tip of the Week, August 21, 2010

Don't keep score.

Tip of the Week, August 15, 2010

Limber up your brain by thinking of 5 different view points for the problem you are experiencing.

Dating Relationships and Women: 7 Tips for Successful Dating

Dating can be fun and it also can be scary. Who has it harder when it comes to the dating scene, men or women? Not a question that can be answered; however, for women, dating often requires a lot of patience, waiting and appearing to be available and friendly while also having a bit of mystery and intrigue.


Dating Relationships and Women: Never Married or Re-Entering the Dating Arena

Sometimes dating does feel like an arena … a boxing arena, sports arena or even a bullfighting arena! Dating relationships are challenging.

Women who have never married may have developed a style that works for them and a tougher skin that will help them survive the ending of a dating relationship. At times, skills can be well-developed but, more often than not, if there has not been a successful match after several years, a woman may need to rethink her approach to dating.

For those entering the dating scene after a divorce or the death of a spouse, self-confidence and knowledge of the art of dating are not high and women need a refresher course to learn to date again.

Women cannot be passive about dating and dating relationships. The right person will most likely NOT show up on her doorstep. The man who asks her out may NOT be a good choice. Dating is bound to be much more successful if women make a game plan about how to meet men who might be a good match and make choices from those who are compatible.

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Tip of the Week, August 8, 2010

Being the first one to listen in a disagreement is a good way to build trust.

Seven-Step Process to Resolve Conflict in Relationships

There is nothing that can be as destructive to a relationship, whether the relationship is a romantic, family, friend or work one, than having conflict.

There is also nothing that can be as healing and helpful to a relationship as resolving conflict and handling it well.

I would like to share with you a 7 step process for resolving conflict. This process is especially helpful when finding a solution and resolving conflict seems to be nowhere on the horizon.

Often, when locked in conflict, people are not able to see and understand any other perspective than their own. Understanding WHY someone feels differently is also hard to do. (Think Democrats and Republicans in highly contested races.)

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Tip of the Week, August 1, 2010

Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat.

Joanne Woodward