Recent research shows that generosity toward spouses is a significant factor in happy marriages.
Getting your spouse a cup of coffee in the morning, remembering her when you see
something she might like while surfing the net or making his favorite meal even though it is not on your “favorites list” are all ways that couples do things for each other. Generosity is going above and beyond the every day tasks. It involves a special way to think about a partner and go a little out of the way to show care and love.
This fits with John Gottman;s research. He found that there was a clear ratio of 5 positives for every one negative in healthy relationships.
The generosity also trickles down to children. Preliminary research showed that children whose parents were generous and caring were also more likely to be generous toward others.
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New patterns of thought can actually change the wiring in your brain. You cannot ignore the negative but can train your brain to focus on the good and the positive. When you notice something good happening, try to just focus on it for a few seconds. Notice what happens.